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Destiny’s Child sings

Ladies, it ain’t easy bein independent

but I think it’s the opposite. I think it ain’t easy being dependent.

As a mother, I feel like my day is dependent on everyone else’s day. If the kids are happy then Momma’s happy. If the kids are cranky or hubby’s stressed, then Momma’s cranky & stressed.

My eating & sleeping schedule is dependent on everyone else’s schedule. If a kid is up late, then Momma’s up later. If a kid cries in the night, Momma isn’t sleeping either. If someone wakes up early, then I’m up early too. I can’t eat until everyone is served (which sometimes means I’m sitting down to eat as the first person served is getting up). I can’t always serve dinner when I want either cuz often I have to stop to nurse in the middle of meal preparation.

I don’t even get to go to the bathroom when I want! Showers have to be carefully scheduled around when everyone is peacefully busy.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not complaining. I love being a mom & I love my kids. I’m just wishing that I’d appreciated my freedom more when I was single. (I guess Pope a John Paul the Great was on to something when he wrote about the gift of singleness). I just want to say to all the single, independent women out there “Stop waiting for tomorrow & enjoy what you have today!”

All the ladies who really feel me, throw your hands up at me!

32 I want you to be free from anxieties. The unmarried man is anxious about the affairs of the Lord, how to please the Lord; 33 but the married man is anxious about worldly affairs, how to please his wife, 34 and his interests are divided. And the unmarried woman or girl[g] is anxious about the affairs of the Lord, how to be holy in body and spirit; but the married woman is anxious about worldly affairs, how to please her husband. 35 I say this for your own benefit, not to lay any restraint upon you, but to promote good order and to secure your undivided devotion to the Lord. 1 Corinthians 7:32-35